Enough about abortion, let’s talk about adoption …

First, what is adoption?

When our organization refers to the option of adoption for women facing unexpected pregnancies, we are referring to private domestic adoption. Generally speaking, women in the United States can choose a loving family for their unborn or newborn child to place with by working with an adoption agency or attorney. Check out more about the options of adoption here.

Adoption also serves as an alternative to abortion, a choice that is unfortunately often less advocated. Below are some similarities and differences between abortion and adoption:

SIMILARITIES

Abortion: You will not have to parent until you feel ready to

Adoption: You will not have to parent until you feel ready to

Abortion: You will avoid being forced into a hasty relationship or marriage

Adoption: You will avoid being forced into a hasty relationship or marriage

Abortion: You can live independently

Adoption: You can live independently  

Abortion: You can pursue earlier goals and your current lifestyle

Adoption: You can pursue earlier goals and your current lifestyle  

DIFFERENCES

Abortion: Provides an unsafe alternative

Adoption: Provides a safe alternative  

Abortion: Your pregnancy ends with taking life

Adoption: Your pregnancy ends with giving birth  

Abortion: You will remember ending life

Adoption: You will remember giving life  

Abortion: Abortion is final; you cannot go back on your decision

Adoption: You will have the time to plan you and your baby’s future  

Abortion: You will never be able to know or treasure your baby

Adoption: You can love on your baby  

Abortion: You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop

Adoption: You can choose to have continued contact with the child  

Abortion: You will feel guilt or shame about your choice in some way

Adoption: You can feel good about this difficult choice  

Why choose adoption over the choice of abortion?

Not only are you giving your unborn child an opportunity at life, but …

Adoption is a Meaningful Choice: Though difficult, personal and complex, birth parents who maintain a relationship with the adoptive parents through an open adoption agreement often have meaningful and healthy experiences. This ongoing connection fosters a sense of belonging for the child and provides an avenue for open communication, allowing all parties to navigate the complexities of their unique relationship. By prioritizing transparency and mutual respect, everyone involved can support the child’s emotional well-being and create a nurturing environment that honors the child’s roots while embracing their future.

Adoption is No Financial Cost to you: Ethical adoption agencies and attorneys work to address the personal needs of birth parents throughout the adoption process. Depending on the agency and the specific adoption arrangement, birth parents often pay little to nothing for the adoption and medical costs incurred during pregnancy and after the birth of the baby.

Adoption is Manageable: The adoption process should be organized and effectively managed for birth parents, depending on the agency or attorney they choose, so that certain aspects of the process do not cause unnecessary stress. Birth parents should be guided comfortably by their adoption agency or attorney throughout the process and kept informed about what to expect legally before, during, and after placement. Ethical adoption agencies and attorneys strive to ensure that birth parents feel confident in their decision and know what to expect in all aspects of the adoption process.

Adoption is Safe: In comparison to abortion, a woman will avoid the extensive and very difficult emotional toil and physical complications associated with an abortion procedure, as well as the psychological effects that come afterward.  

Adoption is Confidential: Ethical adoption agencies and attorneys maintain the confidentiality of a birth parent’s identity and choices throughout the adoption process and beyond the placement of the child, ensuring that these matters are handled with the utmost respect and legal integrity.