To help you decide if adoption is the right option for you, first ask yourself why parenting or adoption would or would not be the best option at this time in your life. Whatever the reasons, the choice of parenting or an open adoption agreement gives you the option of continuing a relationship with your child.

Why I cannot currently parent: (Example: Financial instability and very little long-term support and help)

Why I can parent: (Example: I have the support of my family and friends)

Why adoption is the best option for me and the child: (Example: I want a better life for me and my child)

Why adoption is not the best option for me and the child: (Example: I have the support I need to parent the child)

Am I making a hasty decision? Am I feeling pressure to choose adoption?

• Stress, anxiety, and various circumstances can significantly impact our ability to make rational and healthy decisions. It is crucial to seek counseling (with a professional licensed counselor/therapist or LCSW), guidance, or mentorship during this time to gain clarity about your current situation and to ensure that decisions are not made hastily.
• Have you reached out to your local Department of Social Services for parenting support and resources? There are also Pregnancy Resource Centers in your area that can assist you with developing a parenting plan and connect you to various community resources.
• If you are currently working with an adoption agency or attorney, ensure that they are not rushing you to sign adoption paperwork and that they are supportive of your choices during pregnancy (i.e. Such choices like your selection of a medical provider, to who you want in the delivery room during the birth of your baby). You have rights, too – Specifically, you are not required to sign consent forms while in the hospital; forms can be signed after you are discharged from the hospital or weeks later.
• If you are currently working with an adoption agency or attorney, become familiar with the term informed consent. In the context of adoption, this term refers to the process by which birth parents (or legal guardians) are fully educated about their rights, the adoption process, and the implications of their decision to place their child for adoption.
• Lastly, if you have any “red flag” gut feelings or concerns about the agency or attorney you are working with, it is important to seek alternative options. There are numerous ethical adoption agencies and attorneys available to support you.
• Check out our Resources page for more information about your options.